Your dropping Spike when things with Buffy don't work out was just something that I noticed. If you say that isn't the case then I will take your word for it. It's just coincidence. I'm not being sarcastic. I don't want to call you a liar because it was only speculation on my part.

I am glad that you are going to take steps to help with your Anya. I think that she and Spike are two very loud and distinct voices so playing them both in the same game might also have something to do with it. I'll be rooting for her. Anya is one of my favorites.

The creeper stuff has certainly been toned down ever since he got his soul I will give you that. Buffy mun's tendency to drop threads would drive me batty if I were part of your cast. Going through the tags on the main community you can see that just about every scene she has been in with you guys has been dropped. Some of these were important scenes too like her interactions with Angel. I can see how she shoulders a lot of that responsibility but you guys need to hold her accountable. If you haven't talked to her about it do so and if you have and it still isn't getting resolved then report her to a mod. At this point her poor activity and bad habits are making you and your character look bad so it is something I would look into if I were you or even the cast as a whole.