I think you're handling Abel the best way you can throughout all this. There's been so much drama/angst in his life and the usual people who can pull him out of it are absent. With that being said the canonbump will probably make it a lot easier on you. Paradisa will seem much better after Vanessa strangles him 8293829 times in a row.

As far as recommendations go for the canon bump... yeah I've got nothing. Elektra can knock him out for touching her or something if you get desperate enough.